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    Sarah Paulson Reveals Why She Will Never Marry Holland Taylor

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    All’s fair in Sarah Paulson’s relationship with Holland Taylor—except for marriage.

    Despite being together for more than a decade, the All’s Fair actress—who began dating Taylor after reconnecting in 2015—emphasized that tying the knot with the Two and a Half Men alum is off the table.

    “I’m happy that I haven’t been married,” Paulson said on the Nov. 12 episode of Chelsea Handler’s Dear Chelsea podcast. “I feel that I’ve maintained some sense of myself in a way.”

    But while the 51-year-old—who previously dated Cherry Jones from 2004 to 2009—may not call Taylor her wife, that doesn’t mean their relationship is a horror story.

    “The bond, the connectivity I have with Holland, I feel married to her,” Paulson continued, “but I don’t have or have never had the need to have it be something written in stone somehow. The stoneness of it gives me the heebie-jeebies.”

    Noting the “freedom” that being unmarried provides, the American Horror Story star added, “It’s not about being away from her or being with another person, it’s just about maintaining some sense of my own independence.” 

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    And Taylor, 83, “feels that way too.”

    “We just have never, ever felt the need to [get married],” Paulson added, adding that she feels “as connected to another person as I possibly could to Holland.”

    The longtime couple are also on the same page when it comes to kids. 

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    “I like my life. I’m happy that I haven’t had children,” Paulson said. “I know that I don’t have the constitution to raise a creature, a person, a being, and then be like, ‘Oh, he’ll have a wonderful day outside and I hope it’s great.’ I can just see myself following them.”

    So, not having kids is a way for the Ratched alum to protect her well-being. 

    “My heart is too fragile,” she explained. “I feel too many things. It’s too much for me.”

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